because people are still asking that question
because women are payed less than men in approximately 99% of professions
because chris brown can still have a career after assaulting rihanna but miley cyrus takes her clothes off and there’s a huge scandal
because of this:
because currently it is estimated ten million more girls are out of education than boys (x)
because we’re expected to be mature but hairless like a child, in control but not bossy, sexy but not slutty and definitely not a prude, intelligent but not opinionated, independent but reliant on men, natural but look like the girl in the magazine etc etc
because being called a girl, a pussy or a bitch is an insult
because when i told my mum i refused to get anything less than a’s in my exams she told me it wasn’t ladylike to be so cocky
because my brother and 90% of my male friends think girls who wear revealing clothing are asking for rape
because every person who identifies as female should be allowed to choose if they want to get married, have kids, have a career, go to uni etc etc without expectations
because tampons and sanitary pads are stupidly expensive
because some people reading this will have flinched at the fact i just said ‘tampon’
because there are men out there whose job it is to make young girls feel like absolute shit about themselves just so they can sell the next best beauty product
because female masturbation isn’t considered normal whilst men can talk about their own penises for hours on end
beCAUSE OF ARTICLES LIKE THIS
because feminists are still seen as crazy lesbians who dont shave and some still feel like they have to defend themselves by claiming theyre not any of those things when in fact if i want to be a passionate lady who likes other ladies and cant be bothered to shave my legs every twenty minutes then thats my choice and if i want to be someone who wears make up and shaves and goes out partying then thats my choice and if i want to be a combination of the two or anything in between then thats. my. choice.
because i believe anyone who identifies as female is fucking badass and deserves the same rights as every privileged stuck up old white man sitting around and making laws about our bodies
because how can you not be
1) Circular logic. Additionally, it’s perfectly reasonable for someone to want to know why you apply a politically charged label to yourself that can mean numerous different things. Would it be at all sensible to answer the question “Why are you a Christian?” with “Because people keep asking that question”?
2) That’s not true, at least in the states. The $0.77 for every $1.00 a man makes is based upon average lifetime earnings (not rated wages) of “fields,” which a broad, arbitrary category of occupations. The Equal Pay Act of 1963 made it illegal to not pay someone as much on the basis of their sex. If a company is found in violation of this, there would be hell to pay because the company is in violation of federal law. If it’s happening to you, raise a stink about it, there are federal organizations that will deal with it for you.
3) A large number of Chris Brown’s defenders were female fans of his. I remember there were a ton of videos by female fans on youtube defending him. Even today, people don’t want anything to do with him and view him as a scumbag. What has feminism done to change the minds of this fanbase? How will feminism change their minds? How many of these fans identify as feminists?
And as for Miley Cyrus, I remember tons of tumblr feminists ranting and raving about how she was culturally appropriating twerking. A lot of the tumblr feminist presence I witnessed was participatory in the shaming of Miley. But this raises a further question: how are these scenarios comparable?
Chris Brown still has a career after doing something something horrible that sparked public outrage. Miley Cyrus still has a career after doing something that is arguably distasteful and that sparked public outrage. The comparison would only have been argumentatively useful if Miley Cyrus no longer had a career at all as a result of the event and subsequent outrage. Having failed to meet that criteria, Miley Cyrus becomes a non-sequitor to the issue of Chris Brown’s continued career.
4) Your google search is based very heavily on prior searches you have made and other data based on your browsing history. What this tells us is that the person who typed these spent some time looking at material related to those sentiments (either voicing them or arguing against them), and google connected the dots.
5) Globally, there are 796 million illiterate people in the world, according to the World Literacy Foundation. I can’t find accurate statistics about how many of them are children, or even how “child” is being defined here. Also, they got that information based on the UN’s The Millennium Development Goals report 2007.
The report doesn’t discuss literacy rates, but primary education enrollment and completion rates, and to a lesser extent secondary education. Of the school age populations, 17% of boys do not attend, and 20% of girls do not attend. Girls make up 57% of the out-of-school population. Couching it by only measuring the disparity, without reference to the total it is being measured against, is disingenuous. But hey, saying “10 million more girls are out of school” is a lot scarier sounding than “3 out of every 5 children out of school is a girl.”
Additionally, the resource page OP linked has some really shady and out of date statistics. Always be skeptical of bold claims and investigate sources.
6) You mean you have societal expectations that want you to be in some sort of functional middle-ground between social polarities? And sometimes these expectations are unrealistic? That’s life, and everyone deals with that.
7) I was a kid once. I remember how boys and girls would call girls “boys,” or “boyish,” or the like to insult their behavior or appearance. Pussy, in reference to “cowardly,” on one of the three meanings of the word pussy, each with its own distinct etymological roots. In reference to cowardice, its root is the Old French “poursif” (also “poulsif” and “pourcif”), which means “to push,” as in someone who lets themselves be pushed around. The mixing of that with “cat” (Germanic call-name) and “vagina” (Old English “pursy”) is the result of convergence because they evolved into homonyms. The use of the word to refer to a man as a coward and the use of of a similar word to refer to a female’s genitals predates the convergence. When a man is called a “pussy” it’s because he’s being called a coward, not because he’s being called a vagina.
So calling someone a subservient animal (thereby dehumanizing them) shouldn’t be considered an insult? What should it be considered then? A compliment? Yeah, and people shouldn’t feel insulted when people call them pigs, either.
8) So a diverse and conflicted political movement and the label that comes with it is something you need to deal with your mother having some old-fashioned notions? My parents have some old-fashioned notions too, but I don’t need a political movement or label to deal with them. I think that’s a personal problem you need to talk to your mom about.
Seriously, talk to your mom and let her know how much it bothers you. Some increasingly vague and fractured political movement isn’t going to do it for you.
9) Anecdotal, and somehow I doubt it. 90% is such a neat number, and seeing as you didn’t take an actual survey, the percentage is no doubt hyperbolic. You are likely to remember the one’s believing that more than you are the ones who agree with you because those guys stick out in your mind. What age group are your “friends”? And if they’re over the age of 17, why are you friends with them if they have that disgusting attitude? Additionally, we don’t know how the subject came up or what questions were asked? They could have been arguing that some women, if they’re going out late at night to party, should have some sense of self-awareness and not present themselves as a target. Given tumblr’s propensity for “taking even minor precautions to protect oneself is placing responsibility on the victim meaning you’re victim-blaming scum and defending the rapist, RAPE CULTURE,” I wouldn’t be surprised if very few of the “90%” of her male friends actually said “a woman wearing skimpy clothes is asking to be raped.”
10) Wait, are you arguing that only women shouldn’t have any expectations placed on them, or that men don’t have any and neither should women? Because both are lunacy.
You already have the choice. People can pressure you into doing things you don’t want to do if you allow them, but ultimately it’s your choice. Choice isn’t actually a problem in this scenario except for maybe some restrictive regional laws about abortion, but even then, the men have no legal say in regards to what happens to those children if the mother wants them or doesn’t, and if she chooses to keep them and the father doesn’t, he’ll still be forced to be a financial father and pay for the next 18 years unless he wants to be thrown in debtor’s prison.
As for university, let me tell you something. Ever since WWII, every person in my family has gone to university. It is demanded of us. Male, female, we’re all expected to go. My grandfather had four children, three boys and a girl. All four went to uni. They all married people they met at university, all of whom graduated. Those who have had children either have children who have gone to university and have had children of their own who go to university, have children currently in university, or who have children they are demanding go to university. It’s a familial expectation that every member of our family have a university education.
How infantalizing is it to have zero expectations of our female offspring? Our female peers? Our female superiors? Your parents want the best for you, but in order to get that, you have to be an active participant in your own life. That’s what expectations are for. They want validation that they were successful in their parenting and that their offspring are productive members of society in some way, shape, or form. Having zero expectations of women is a bad thing. Our value as human beings is predicated upon what we bring to the world. Having zero expectations of women is akin to saying they have no value. If I have a daughter, I’m going to expect her to get a college education. I’m going to expect her to do something important, something valuable. I would expect her to do these things because she comes from a long line of people who have done it, have the mental hardware for it, and have done great things with it. And I doubt she would go those places if I didn’t pressure her, because I know I wouldn’t have gone for university if my parents didn’t pressure me.
11) Diapers are also expensive. Seriously, you would not believe how often I hear about how expensive diapers are. They’re both sanitary products and we consider them a necessity. We’re willing to pay for their well engineered paper products, which is why they charge so much. That’s western capitalism.
12) I know people who flinch at the mention of diapers. I know my brother does. They’re both products for containing and disposing of bodily waste, and people don’t like discussing bodily waste. It’s waste, it’s unsanitary, and there’s a reason your body is trying to get it out of you.
13) You know, a lot of that business is women. You can’t erase the harmful female minds of the fashion world because they’re argumentatively inconvenient for you.
14) In what setting? Online? Dude-time? Because loud, public discussion of male masturbation is socially unacceptable most places, and if somebody complains you can get kicked out. For most companies, that sort of talk can get you fired on the grounds of sexual harassment.
Additionally, I remember a trip to Six Flags one time where myself and a friend of mine repeatedly overheard several distinct groups of girls make loud masturbation jokes. In fact, they had to stop Viper on the climb up to tell the girls to stop because people were complaining. They very distinctly told the employee working the roller coaster that he “ruined [their] orgasm.”
Similar such instances with girls in my own age group occurred all throughout middle school an high school. Guys did that sort of thing more often, but that doesn’t mean the girls didn’t do it, too.
15) That article was written by a woman, probably for pageviews by making a bunch of people angry. Similarly, Cosmo has tons of sex-tips about “what guys love,” and most of them are laughable. I doubt a guy was even consulted on this list.
16) This is a run-on, jumbled mess. The crazy lesbians thing has a kernel of truth to it in the extremes of feminism, like “political lesbianism”. People often think of regressive, right-wing hardliners when they hear the word “christian” in association with politics. It comes with the territory of labeling yourself. You can’t expect other people to change their mental image of a label you have taken upon yourself except by taking upon yourself the responsibility of embodying the meaning you want that label to have. The responsibility is not theirs to change their mind at your behest, but for you to change their mind by positive action. If you don’t like people associating feminism with its radicals, then work to remove the radicals from the system, and better organize and codify the meaning of the label. And even then, that’s no guarantee, because people are autonomous.
You can choose to live however you want, but your actions are open to scrutiny, just as you are free to scrutinize the actions of everyone else. You are not exempt. You cannot control other people. Feminism cannot control other people. You only can control yourself, and do your part to change something outside of yourself. Feminism isn’t going to change that.
17) Not everyone who identifies with female is a badass. Some of them are terrible people. Putting someone on a pedestal is a form of dehumanization. It’s infantalizing. “It doesn’t matter what you do, you get a badass award just for identifying as a female!” Mary Curie was a badass. Lady K’abel of Peru Waka was a badass. Hell, my mom who teaches nurses, prevented the defribrilation of of a man with an artificial heart, who regularly schooled surgeons on the anatomy of the human heart and in so doing saved lives, she is a badass.
Loren Morris is not a badass. She identifies as female, is not a badass.
As for rights? You have all the same rights as men in the states. Name one right that men have that women don’t? Name one? And if you say bodily autonomy, that’s a lie. Men have zero reproductive rights, and in order to vote we have to sign over our bodily autonomy to the government through selective service. Women have no such legal obligation (at least in the US).
Also, women are the majority of the voting population. Not just of the population, but the majority of people who actually go out and vote. Those old white men you’re talking about get voted in by your fellow woman. If women as a block voted uniformly, the politician they back will get in, absolutely. Women have an active role in placing people in power who will ignore them for the sake of a constituency marker that crosses gender lines, or will sell them out to lobbyists. The ink of the voting booth is on your hands too, so don’t pretend you haven’t participated in the corrupt system.
18) These reasons aren’t particularly convincing, but I could think of quite a few people who could write books about why they refuse the label of feminist.
Seriously, this list is pretty poor. I mean, I’m not going to argue your right to identify as feminist, to adopt the label, etc., but your reasons are poorly substantiated and have very little to do with feminism. In fact, there’s nothing to say that feminism will do anything about some of them.